From a very popular online adoption community:
Ugh, adoption is a rough sport...The adoption process really sucks sometimes. There's no candy-coating it. It's hard, it's painful, it rips your heart out again and again.....
and then....
You finally are chosen - And life - life - is....
Wonderful, jubilant, exciting, overwhelming with joy, happy, ecstatic, so full of love that you think you'll burst....
Then you start to forget - just a little - about all the bad times.
And this was posted by an adopter. Yes folks, you read correctly adopters have it the roughest of them all.
I guess in all my 26 years of life as an adoptee wondering what my mother looked like, sounded like and wondering what it would've been like to have been raised with my siblings; I totally forgot how hard it is for adopters to "sell themselves" in order to con some poor woman into giving them her child.
I guess in the last 11 years since I lost my son to adoption; the nights I went to bed crying hoping I wouldn't wake up in the morning, the years of putting on a happy face so that people would think I was "ok", trying to convince myself that I would eventually get over the loss of my child, my first born son, the first blood relative I had ever seen in my life, I guess I forgot how hard it must be for people who covet other women's babies.
They complain about how much money they have to come up with in order to cover all the paperwork ::wink wink:: but have they ever thought about how it feels to know that you were purchased?? Literally bought and paid for??
I'm sorry but from my point of view the adopters have it the easiest of them all.
Posted by nomovingon
at 6:03 PM PDT